Ask AdaMarie: How do I know whether I’m just burned out or if this career isn’t the right fit?
Hey AdaMarie, I’ve been feeling drained and unmotivated at work. I can’t tell if I’m just burned out or if I’ve chosen the wrong career path altogether. How do I know the difference, and what should I do next?
Hi there! So many people wrestle with this question at some point in their careers. Burnout and misalignment can look really similar on the surface, but understanding the difference is key to figuring out your next step. Let’s break it down.
Burnout feels like depletion. A bad fit feels like friction.
If you once enjoyed the work but now feel constantly drained, cynical, or emotionally checked out, that’s often a sign of burnout. It’s your body and mind waving a red flag saying, “I need rest.”
On the other hand, if the work never felt quite right or if you're constantly frustrated, bored, or feel out of sync with the culture or mission that might mean the role itself isn’t a good fit.
Burnout builds slowly. Misfit shows up early.
Burnout tends to sneak up over time, especially in high-pressure or under-resourced environments. You may not even notice how exhausted you are until things start falling through the cracks.
If you’re in the wrong role or workplace, though, that discomfort often shows up fast and lingers. You might keep thinking, “Maybe if I just try harder,” but the spark never really comes.
Ask yourself: If this same work existed in a healthier setting, would I still want to do it?
This question can be clarifying. If the answer is yes, burnout may be the issue, and rest, boundaries, or a better workplace could make a world of difference.
If the answer is no, it’s time to reflect on what kind of work excites you. That’s not failure. It’s wisdom. And it’s a step toward something that really fits.
🔥 PRO TIP: Journaling for even 5–10 minutes a day about how different parts of your job make you feel can help spot patterns over time and point you toward what energizes vs. drains you.
Remember: You deserve meaningful work and a sustainable work life. Whether you need a break or a bigger pivot, honoring what you need is never the wrong move. You’re not behind, and you’re not stuck. You’re learning more about what you need to thrive and that’s powerful.
You've got this.
